The whole world is one family

We observe that all our life’s movements are as per our various plans and strategies, our lives’ movements keep being orchestrated by these ‘schemes’ only. We keep moving according to these resolves and the alternatives.1 our desires and our wishes keep enforcing our actions, they keep accelerating them. When these wishes are fulfilled we rejoice; when things go adverse we fret. Therefore a major part of our lives goes away encountering dualities and adversities.
Nature has bestowed us with free will—to give velocity to our lives as per our own propensity. But, by taking up our lives in our hands we become all the more, even more enmeshed into predicaments and quandaries. So much, that ambiguity, predicament and imbroglio become a significant aspect of our lives, following which, being distraught by these factors we forget to dwell on the fundamental and most important questions of life.
As per the great ones, life’s most significant objective is to attain “total and absolute bliss” but being riveted by our various desires and hankerings we are left deprived of this supreme bliss.  Facing the dualities and travails of pleasure and pain, we are just not aware—that while we are jostling with the superfluous snares of life and remain distressed—  the fountainhead of supreme and easily accessible happiness remains hidden deep within our own selves only. ..but, just to feed our ego, and keep doing that, knowingly, we become ensnared into the snares of these dualities.
Our human birth is extremely singular, but under the spell of our ego, we kick our own legs and in the pursuit of becoming someone ‘special’ we get adrift form that basic ideal—that is our prime goal. At that time, we think that whatever is happening in our lives, is but because of our own doings. Had we not been there at that time, things wouldn’t have had turned up the way they did and are doing—this is the beginning point of a person’s ego.  
What not do we keep executing in nurturing this ego? From here only starts our going against the fundamental stream of life. This is the basic reason for our getting trapped into dualities, then our entire life gets caught up and exhausted into an unresolved cobweb.
One often thinks that whatever one is doing, through one’s own mind, own intelligence, own thoughts and ideas---is correct and what others are doing (if against the former’s way) is wrong—this, in reality, is one’s egotism. What one does –good or bad—can only be known through the consequences. For this one has to evaluate one\s actions through one’s conscience, then only can one reach a certain conclusion. Truly, inimitable are the ways of the human mind. It is used to spinning nets of imagination and illusions and keeping its own perpetrator—the individual—incarcerated into its shackles. Remaining fasted to these shackles man spends away his entire lifetime in despair and haplessness. It’s in this imbroglio, that suddenly one feels the utter necessity of a true Guru, Sadguru—in one’s life, who can activate the mainstream of his life.

 

The mind  

To free ourselves of the dualities, we need to learn the art of freeing the same from desires and passions. And to understand our cravings, we need to understand our mind first. The scriptures have cued about the mind as:
Man eva Manushyanam Karanam Bandhamokshyo.
The mind is only the reason behind (between)man’s fetters and freedom. Therefore we need to catch the mind in the first place. But we know that the mind is very wavering and impenetrable, opaque, it’s a gargantuan task to try and understand it, to tame it. Then in these opposing circumstances, to tame the mind, we need to find a sadguru. Because, only a sadguru can unravel the real reason behind the turmoil in our lives.    
If we look at our lives with a bit of conscience, we realize that the pursuit of “self gratification’ only wreaks havoc in our lives. For this only we start our actions as per our ego and vested interests. It’s in this condition that our midgets out of our hands and we start suffering.
As per the great ones, in order to keep our mind under our control, we need to be shielded from and take over the Shad Ripu—as it’s through these Shad Ripu (six foes) that the mind ensnares and enslaves us. 
These Shd Ripu are: Lust (Kaam), Anger (krodh), Greed (Lobh), Moha (attachment) ahamkar (ego-consciousness) and Swarth (self-centredness).
The Gita also says:
Avruttam Gyameten Gyanino Nityavairina
Kaam rupen Kaunteya Sushpurushaanlen Cha.
This Kaam desire—keeps the Gyan (true knowledge) covered up to the individual as its eternal antagonist. Just like when you oblate ghee (clarified butter into fire the fire becomes all the more vigorous, similarly, when one satiates one’s desires the desires become more and more invigorated. And when these desires are sated, we feel delighted, when these desires are faced with some obstacle, despair and anger flare up. Hence any obstacle to desires engenders anger and wrath. When ire arise our conscience –the discriminatory power between good and bad, right or wrong gets swathed and mitigated and then it’s in his rage that we don’t hesitate to take worse and even worse recourses.
The third obstacle to the mainstream of our life is Lobh—greed. Whatever has been given unto us by providence, not being satisfied by that, when we take actions in hankering for more and more---for self gratification,  we become trapped into dualities and predicament. 2
The fourth, Moha attachment—finding something more important, more riveting than truth, and continuing to revel in that ephemeral illusion, is Moha.
Goswami Tulasidas has said:
Moha Sakal Vyadhinha kar moola
Attachement is at the root of all ailments—afflictions. The addiction of this attachment remains very deeply entrenched in the mind. The fundamental basis of attachment is this body only, due to which we remain bonded with those who are related to this body, and we keep suffering because of this only. Finally we are absorbed into the great misery called death.
Amamkar is that enemy of the being, by which he considers himself to be the body “ I am the body.” Now, whatever gets dissipated by this body, the ego takes it to be being done by the latter. This keeps breeding self pride. Like I am strong, I am wealthy and so on. The main base of all these foes is self-centredness. If, somehow, we could step away from this self-centred mode and imbibe un-selfishness then its possible to attain peace and completeness.
From ancient times, all the great and true gurus (apostles) have had one essence of their knowledge:
Sarvabhoothiteretah
Engrossed in the wellbeing  of all beings
Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam
The Earth is the kin
And
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhinah
May everyone be blissful. .

Today, we have forgotten this priceless understanding and message of their lives (lives of the Sadgurus), following which, today, the main rachis of our life has gone haywire. To redeem ourselves from these six enemies, we  will have to imbibe these invaluable prescription into our lives. Then only can we get away from the dualities and can comprehend total bliss.
We will have to remove our perspective, our paradigm from pettiness, from the small and vested towards ubiquitous and the universal. We will have to evict ourselves from narrow boundaries (of ego gratification) and develop the idea of universal amity. Will have to strive towards establishing union with the macrocosm, shedding behind our petty  ego mode, and this can happen oyl when dnt condier this body as the only entity (that we have). Then only, for the first time shall we realize the astronomical presence of the Sadguru in our lives.
It’s in this moment of life that if we oblate ourselves into the flow of nature, into the stream of the sadguru then, from that moment, our life will be taken care of and guided by that Supreme Authority. Instead of working towards satisfying our gratifications, if we start working with the intention of the good for all, or for the pleasure of God then the grace of the almighty starts showing up on its own. Our psyche shall start transforming spontaneously. Divine fountains/ rays of peace and bliss shall starts sprouting up on their own. Heavenly love will take place of petty hankerings. Tranquility shall take over anger, contentment shall replace greed and avarice. Likewise, attachment shall give way to freedom and universal love. Ego shall be obliterated, magnanimity/ Super consciousness shall pour into our lives. As Goswami Tulasidas has enunciated
Ishwar Ansha Jiva Avinashi
Being a part of God (the supreme consciousness), the Jiva (individual soul, erroneously reflected within the bound mind as ego) is indestructible.
The need of the Sadguru is to make the disciple realize his immortal, imperishable nature—his or her ultimate freedom. Awash with compassion, his heart is always active for the emancipation of all beings. He remains so much flooded with empathy that he takes away the woes and sufferings of others, and makes his own self suffer so that his disciples can remain happy and moving. His message remains same since times immemorial that humans should learn to live for others, as mother nature keeps working day in and day out for the well being of others. If and when humans learn this, they will automatically learn their free nature. As our ancestral rishis/ seers have averred:
Sarve Bhavantu Sukhinah sarve santu Niramayah;
Sarve Bhadrani Pashyantu, Ma kashchid Dukham Bhavet.
From this it becomes clear that our good lies in the good of all. When we will imbue ourselves with such thoughts and intentions, then only can we encounter the higher power of the collective conscious and establish a rapport with it, and then we need to imbibe the altruistic feelings into ourselves at a regular basis. Everyday, we should instill our lives with such propitious and beneficent prayers:
Om Sarvesham Swastirbhavatu. Sarvesham Shantirbhavatu
May respite and wellbeing be to all; may peace and tranqulility be to all.
Sarvesham Purnam Bhavatu; sarvesham Mangalam Bhavatu
May all be (attain Totality) complete, may positivity be unto all.    
                  

Note2: what is a duality? When what we are doing is not the only thing that we could do in that given moment, for example if we are eating and we have an extra slice of bread and we throw it away, here lies a duality. We could have given it someone or a being who would be in dire need of it—a beggar, a hungry helpless old woman, a wounded cow. But we don’t care. It’s then that we live shallow, we live superfluously, we are not sure of what we are doing. We think that by taking such actions we should be happy. But in reality, we are not.
On the contrary, when we are not in duality, we may be suffering, but we know that it’s the best way, for any other way might bring us some comfort, ephemerally, but at the long run, they are not worth it, since they are not  our true nature—farther from the Self.      
 
NOTE:

1 WE MAKE SOME PLANS AND WE CHANNEL OUR ENERGIES INTO MAKING THOSE PLANS actualize. Sometimes, as we know Man proposes God disposes, sometimes our plans keep staring at our face and life takes an absolutely unseen unthinkable recourse, then we shift to some alternative. This is how life keeps going on.